Moving toward the goal of Living the Dream takes persistence: Staying at it. Seeing it through. Not giving up. While discipline, planning and motivation all play a huge role, just hanging in there until its done is often a big key to success.
First of all, you need to show up. You can’t be there if you’re not there (over-simplistic, I know). Half of winning the race is showing up at the starting line. Sure, a lot of preparation goes into getting ready for race day. Yet if you do not compete, you cannot win. If you never start, you’ve already lost.
Professor Carol Dweck has delineated self-belief theories into two groups, Growth Mindset (a.k.a. Incremental Theory), and Fixed Mindset (a.k.a. Entity Theory). The growth mindset believes that learning and improvement are always possible. Each experience is a learning experience. Difficult is fun. The fixed mindset believes that we can only perform according preset standards. Each experience can be measured on a fixed scale. It can be graded as A, B, C, D, F or Pass/Fail. Things should be easy. If it is difficult, something is wrong.
We all feel like giving up at times. Is all the effort worth it?
After showing up comes persistence. Having a growth mindset allows you to go beyond what exists, to create something new; from impossible to possible. My favorite example of this is The Little Engine That Could. Not only was she optimistic (as I mentioned last week), she was also persistent. She applied the Incremental Theory by believing that improvement is possible in small doable steps. To live your dream, you will need to patiently, doggedly, and consistently stay at it. Don’t give up. Stay at it. Take a break every now and then. Repeat.
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